Hi All!
Here’s your weekly On-Track advice, a list of tips and tricks to keep you on top of your goals. As requested by some of you, I have kept this week’s newsletter shorter than usual. I hope you enjoy it.
1. Social acceptance, or “being liked”, holds much power because it keeps feelings of loneliness at bay.
Many of our actions are governed by our need for social acceptance. The desire to be liked by our peers is a normal part of being human.
In ancient times, we needed acceptance to survive. Our peers were more likely to mate with us, share food, and protect us in life-threatening situations. Being recognized meant that we were part of a tribe, which provided us with feelings of safety and security.
2. People who criticize you for your outward image are often envious.
When criticized, consider the source. You will never be criticized by someone doing more than you. Those people are too focused on their dreams and know how difficult the journey toward success can be. You will only be criticized by people doing less than you, those who aren’t achieving their goals. Judgement is their way of dealing with their own insecurities.
Your Weekly Digest: The Fear of Judgement
We all fear being judged. It doesn’t feel good to be criticized for who we are or what we do. All we want is social acceptance and a positive outward image. The truth, however, is that judgement is inevitable. No matter what you do, you will always have to listen to people’s opinions.
To help you cope with judgement, I wrote a blog article titled, “A Simple Way to Deal with the Fear of Being Judged.” It explains how a shift in your mindset can help you deal with the negativity you receive from others. On top of that, it shows that evaluations don’t just apply to you, but that they take root in human nature.
Until next week,
Mike van der Poel
Previous: Stay on Track: Tiny Efforts, Overnight Success, and Innate Talent — Sept. 17, 2021
It is true that some people can learn faster than others, but even the most talented people on earth still need a great deal of practice. Natural talent is …